We're not that different.
You're not the only one struggling.
You, me, and the rest of humanity struggles together.
With mostly the same stuff, because...
YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL.
And stop telling yourself that you are.
Because we are what we think we are.
And if your problems are special...
Then nobody else has them...
And you can't get any help.
Since starting this blog, I have been overwhelmed with the amount of:
"I know exactly what you're talking about."
Sharing what I'm going through has helped me feel less alone.
And I hope it can help you too.
You don't get bonus points for solving your problems alone.
And since 2+ minds are infinitely better than 1...
Asking for help is always a good idea.
Collaboration in life is an obvious win.
It's a free tool. And it always helps.
It's kind of like meditation.
Or finding out your why.
How to Not Be Alone
Share your problems with your friends.
Get past 'how was your day'. Open yourself and your friends up to the opportunity to provide better solutions. Share your emotions, struggles, and what's going on behind the surface.Your friends will follow your lead.
Ask deep questions.
The best way to make you and your friends feel alone is to stay on the surface. Don't be afraid of getting deeper, be afraid of not. Having a life full of solvable problems should be a lot scarier than some temporarily uncomfortable conversations.
Lean into fear.
Fear is scary for everyone. So, learning to overcome it for yourself makes you more valuable to others. Solving bigger and bigger problems for yourself makes you better able to connect with (and help solve) the deep, hard problems of others.